Telling others about your HIV

January 2010     View PDF     En español

Tell friends and family

Healthy disclosure is a process that may require many discussions. Think of disclosing your HIV as the beginning of new dialogues with others. Not only will they learn about you through this process, but you'll learn a lot about yourself as well. The starting point may be your saying, "I have something to tell you — I have HIV." Chances are, that isn't going to be the final word.

Think about where you want to tell — a place where you feel comfortable and safe. If possible, line up a place safe for you to go after the initial disclosure, like a friend's house or a support group.

Consider bringing a few pamphlets about HIV or a hotline card for the person you're telling. They might want to use these resources later. Also, consider bringing someone who already knows you have HIV, which can be great support for you as you talk.

Remember, their first reaction is not going to be their last. Like you, those who you care about need time to adjust to this new information. Be brave and proud of the decision you've made!